On Our Bookshelf: Created to Be His Help Meet

Another one of the books that I've found really helpful in marriage is this book Created to Be His Help Meet. It's written by Debi Pearl who, with her husband, founded No Greater Joy ministries. This is definitely one of those books that you need to take with a grain of salt. I don't agree with everything that Mrs. Pearl says in this book, but there is a lot of wisdom in it.



My biggest takeaway from this book is that being a wife, a loving, dedicated wife, is a good thing. There is an attitude today that by getting married, a woman is selling herself short. That she is somehow giving up any potential she may have of being someone by choosing to get married. I'm not going to get into my entire opinion on this subject, but let me just say that since getting married I have started my own business, quit my boring day job and have more friends than I know what to do with. Anyways, this book explores the many ways that being a wife is blessing.

One of the other really helpful things I found in this book was Mrs. Pearl's breakdown on the three types of men. There are leaders, visionaries, and steady committed men. Some husbands fall into one category only. Some, like mine, are a blend of all three. She delves into the characteristics of each type of man, and gives good advice on how to be the best wife you can be to your husband, however he is.

Mrs Pearl also really advocates that a wife, and a wife that stays home, become the mistress of her castle. She talks about learning to do simple things like repair something the is broken, keeping up with the yard, taking out the garbage, etc. These are little things that are, culturally, a man's domain, but when the wife does them, the final product means that they have more time together. This has been really helpful for me in our relationship.

One note of caution. As I said, this book needs to be read with an open and critical mind. Mrs. Pearl gives a few extreme examples that, taken out of context, could be used to say that she advocates staying in an abusive relationship, or allowing your husband to treat you like garbage. I don't believe that she was saying that, but I think it could definitely be taken that way, if you read the book without wisdom.

So there's another book that I've really enjoyed and learned a lot from. If you've read it, I'd love to hear what you thought of the book.

Buy this book on Amazon. :-)

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