Wednesday, February 25, 2015

The House Hunting Saga - Part 1


I mentioned a while ago that we would be buying a house when our lease ended in April. Well that's still the plan, and we actually started our search at the end of January. We knew it would take a while to find a realtor, nail down the financing, and we wanted to really have time to explore the market, know what we could get at our price point, and figure out what neighborhoods we wanted to be in.

So, we've been officially house hunting for about a month now. And boy, are things different than house hunting in upstate New York! When we bought Wendhurst Castle, we had looked at lots of houses, and finally knew that the Castle was the one. We put in an offer, they countered, we accepted and - that was it. It was ours!

Here in Denver, things are an entirely different matter. There is a serious shortage of housing for the amount of people that have moved to Denver in the last few years. When we were apartment hunting, someone told us they were building 15,000 apartments over the next year. Denver is growing! Which means a few things - houses sell really, really fast, and for significantly more than list price. Our realtors counseled us that if we found a house we liked, to go ahead and put in an offer, immediately. Denver's purchase contracts are set up to protect the buyer so you can basically withdraw your offer for any reason. So the idea is that if you see a house you think you might like, go ahead and put in an offer, and hope that it is accepted.

To date, we've put in offers on *7* different houses! We submitted one our first weekend house shopping, and lost on that one. We submitted an offer for a lovely house with a lofted hallway  and a beautiful yard, and lost. We submitted an offer on a gorgeous house that reminded me of my grandparents' house, with an escalation clause that offered up to $30,000 over asking price, and lost. That house received 24 offers in a single day, and sadly ours was not the winning bid. We were pretty sad about that one.

We have won one of our offers! Last weekend Denver got an "epic" snowstorm. It wasn't much of a storm by NY standards, but just about everything was shut down, church was canceled and few houses were listed. We submitted an offer sight unseen on a property that looked really promising, but ultimately withdrew the offer once we visited the property. It just wasn't the right fit for us.

We're also waiting to hear back on a bank owned property that is taking their sweet time responding to our offer. It's little fixer upper that would be a fun project to take on. But, it's been almost two weeks and we have yet to hear from the bank, so our hopes are not high for that property.

So we have about two weeks left to find the "perfect" house. After that, with closing dates and such, we'll be up against our end of lease deadline so we will have to find a house, any house, that works. We decided to buy here in Denver since rental prices are already very inflated, and would have gone up even more had we stayed here or tried to find a bigger rental. Our kids need a yard, we would like another 1-2 bedrooms for kiddos and guests, and it just makes a lot more financial sense to own rather than rent in this market. We would appreciate your prayers over the next few weeks as we really work to find a house that will work for us!

jenny

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Getting out of a Mom Funk



There are some days when I am just done with my kids. Do you know what I mean? It's usually after we've been cooped up from being sick, or a new developmental stage has brought on lots of a)clinginess b)whinyness c)tantrums d) all of the above. Usually I start to feel at the end of my rope and start getting easily frustrated... and everything deteriorates from there. Of course, that's also when some older mom (whose kids are out of the nest) will typically tell me something SUPER helpful like "I wish I had played more with my kids when they were little" or "aren't you just loving every second of parenting littles?" or (my favorite) "boy, you sure have your hands full!" It's always something along those lines that does not, in fact, make me feel better about my current state.

At those times I'm also not reassured by the opposite spectrum - the mommy blogs where everyone pats each other on the back for "getting through one more day", "surviving being a stay at home mom", or congratulates each other for sticking the kids in front of the TV for hours on end because "mom time." I'm not really interested in "surviving" these years, I'd prefer to thrive.

So I'm learning that there are a few things that consistently pull me out of my funk when I get like this:

Time in the Word. Typically, when things change and/or we go through a difficult stage, it means that I have not been reading my Bible or praying much (beyond "please God, help me to make it through this day/hour/second!") So I start making that a priority again. I often refer to I Corinthians 13 (the love chapter) when I'm feeling at the end of my rope - that passage tends to give me quite the kick in the pants. :)

Music. This helps me diffuse the tension, sometimes we dance silly dances, and oftentimes it just lessens that feeling of loneliness that can sometimes creep on me from staying home with my kids all day.

Reaching out to another young mom. I have a few friends that I know are "safe friends." I can call them to vent, and chat for a bit, and they will not judge me for being at the end of my rope, nor will they say maddening things like "oh, my kids have never really been tantrum throwers." :)

Getting outside. It's amazing what a difference taking the kids outside makes. If it's nice, we can go for a walk or play at the playground, take our time and enjoy the outdoors leisurely. If it's cruddy, just fifteen minutes of fresh air and sunshine will boost everyone's moods and change the dynamic enough to turn the day around.

So that's what works well for me. Do you have any thoughts or advice for when life with littles gets really hard?

jenny

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Javi Jokes Around Vol. 2



Javi: "KK, I hold your hand and you can't fall, ok?"

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To the smoke alarm: "Fire smoke, you all done beeping?"

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To the deer at the refuge: "hey deer! This camera's not working!"

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Lifting up his shirt: "Mommy, Look! I have apples!"

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Me: Javi, are you stinky?
Javi: NO!...but, maybe, yes.

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In the bath: Mommy! My fingers is twinkly!

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Me: Javi, what are you doing?
Javi: I breaking stuff!

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Javi: Mommy! It's a beetle.
Me: Yeah?
Javi: I died him.

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Javi: Mommy, can you ask Javi likes to move it?
Me: Javi, do you like to move it?
Javi: "I like to move it, move it. I like to MOVE IT! sing with me! I like to move it..."

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To KK: "KK, you have a boo boo? It's a pretty boo boo!"
KK cries.
Javi: I know, KK, I know.

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Javi: "We sing fish in the mountains?"
Me: "um...Which song is that?"
Javi: "Higher than the mountains..."
Me: "Sparkling like a fountain, all suFISHent grace for even me...OH!"

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